Smile.
Say hello.
A friendly word.
Reach out a hand.
Be prepared for a hug.
Offer to share and expect a decline.
Offer again.
Insist.
Let it go.
Listen.
Just listen –
without interruption.
Respond.
Please respond so she knows you’ve heard.
For these words come from her soul
And they have been cut short too often.
Open up.
Tell her everything.
Share your feelings.
For she’ll listen without judgement.
She wants to know everything –
not to gossip.
She wants to learn and grow.
and understand your perspective.
Bring a second layer –
or wood for a fire.
Let her stand in the smoke.
Eyes closed.
Back against the flames.
When she runs,
let her go –
don’t close the door.
She might be lost
but she’ll always find her way –
it must be on her own.
Wear a long sleeve
or carry tissues.
Hold her tight.
Don’t tell her to stop.
Let her cry –
she holds too much to keep it in.
Be ready to recap the movie.
Don’t expect her to know the lines
nor understand the references.
Never quiz her.
Acknowledge when she remembers
or quotes a favorite line.
Read her writing
and pay attention to the words –
they speak louder
when she’s sad.
Be there
when she falls
with ice cream and gummy bears.
Help her be better.
Bring her water when
she orders the drink
she won’t remember.
Say yes to late night food.
Always say yes to the food.
Laugh
when she dances for you.
Don’t get annoyed with “too much” laughter
or love
or emotion.
Just be –
Yourself.
And let her –
do the same.